I’m normally a very placid person and can’t be bothered with temper tantrums, however my ex turns me into an irrational harpy almost instantly. I just get so hurt and angry on James’s behalf.
Yup, I know how you feel. Even before we fully split he would disappear for weeks/months on end, (now I know it was when he had a new female in tow) and then turn up again like a bad panny and expect to pick up where he had left off. As far as the kids were concerned though he was happy to brag about them in the pub and use them to make him look like a caring father but he has never paid a penny in maintanence ever, after me and hubby got together he stopped sending bday and xmas cards and presents altogether not that he was ever reliable in these matters. He never commited to visiting them and if he did never turned up if he had something else to do ie going to pub ,a date or football match. I could go on but I won’t.
Basically the man is a con artist (he even conned his own parents out of a substantial amount of money he has no consicence) a liar, a thief and a coward and for a long time we were better off because he didn’t bother, at least the kids knew where they stood and weren’t constantly being heartbroken by his promises and lies. It messed with their heads a little as they grew up and I know Luke still has a lot of questions and pent up feelings about him. Leigh-Ann is a lot more matter of fact and doesn’t want to speak to him ever. Hubby is their dad as far as we are all concernend, he had been more of a father to them in the first 6 months of our relationship than that w*^££r had in the previous 5 years.
Ok rant over with, Rowena I hope you can work things out a lot better than we obviously could and get to the point where you are friends and not just for Aston’s sake. It’s much easier for everyone.
